Getting used to sharing a space with someone after living alone requires time, patience and lots of conversation. From sharing nothing to everything and adorable quirks gone wrong, we have what you need to feel more prepared!
Moving in together for the first time is an exciting step! However, this stage of the relationship can also be nerve-wracking and overwhelming. He left the toilet seat open (again!)... her hair is clogging the shower drain! ....Why didn’t he put the cap back on the toothpaste? .....What are all these bras hanging here for?
Whether you are waiting until after marriage or have decided to move in for the first time beforehand, there are a lot of difficult conversations to be had. Keep in mind it’s going to be an adjustment. For some, it might be more difficult than others – especially if you’ve never lived with anyone else before.
Getting used to sharing a space with someone after living alone requires time, patience and lots of conversation. From sharing nothing to everything and adorable quirks gone wrong, we have what you need to feel more prepared!
Communication
Make sure to talk about things before you move in together. An important aspect of communication is making sure that you are both listening and willing to compromise. Comprehension is half the battle. If all you do is talk, neither of you are really listening or understanding what the other is asking. Just because we suggest talking before you take the plunge, doesn’t mean the conversations stop once you move in. Don’t let things fester. Keep talking about what bothers you or what you would like to change, but don’t expect these things to happen overnight. It is okay to get annoyed while getting used to each other’s habits, but communication is the key to resolving these issues. How are you supposed to know if something really bugs one another if you don’t openly discuss it?
Remember the Why
An essential thing to remember is the reason that you are moving in together, what brought the two of you here in the first place. When things start to go awry, remember why you moved in together. Take a “time-out” before saying anything harsh; go for a walk or call your parents.
Bills
How do you decide who pays for what? Are you going to rent or buy? These questions also intertwine with banking. After you’re married, sit down and discuss your financial situation. Will you bank separately or have a joint account?
Cooking & Cleaning
Women these days are no longer the typical housewives portrayed on old sitcom reruns. More than 50% of married women are in the workforce. Make a plan when you move in for taking turns cooking and cleaning. Discuss what each of you likes and doesn’t like when it comes to household responsibilities and divvy them up fairly.
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